...about the Teacher guy I told ya'll about a while ago. I can't remember if I mentioned it, but at some point in our "relationship" I had asked him about his previous relationships with other women -- I think it was on our 2nd date. He revealed to me then, that he basically hadn't had a long term relationship in approximately 9/10 years. He's 29 now, so that means his last girlfriend was when he was 19/20 -- somewhere in there.
Obviously, I should have seen the red flag.
(That's a red flag right?)
FF to the cabin situation. I finally decide this isn't going to work. Our values are not in aligment. I was down to compromise (a little; you're never going to get 100% of what you want in a relationship) but I realized, I can't take the back seat to "his kids" (his students). They make me very uncomfortable (not personally, I'm speak in generalities) I can't help it -- it is what it is.
It was super hard, because both he and I really wanted it to work. I'm ready for a relationship -- It's been about a year and some change since my ex and I split, in that time, I took ill and did alot of thinking.
I let him know all this up front about 3/4 weeks into dating (too soon?).
He was the first guy I've "talked to" in months since I've been sick, so yeah, I got a little caught up. It upsets me because revealed this to him and he seemed to be supportive all the way. I would not have told him about my medical situation if he wasn't going to be around for awhile and at the time, I thought he was someone I would date long term (you know, like 6 months or more)
because everything was going so smoothly. I don't just tell people about it willy nilly -- it's serious and it's a big deal to me.
I was basically like, "Look, you haven't had a g/f in 10 years, you don't what you want, I can't be around/hear about kids all the time. As much as this sucks, we need to stop talking, this isn't going to work..."
I think he has a lot of soul searching to do -- it's not a legitimate excuse to me that in 10 years, as an adult, you haven't had a g/f. This isn't some raggedy dude either -- he's educated, very attractive, has a great job and comes from a well to do family. I guess he just has some serious commitment issues.
So anyway, we quit talking. It haven't talked to him in few weeks and I miss him. Ugh. I think I'm just bored, honestly. I liked having someone there -- It was a good feeling. I sent him an inappropriate sexual text last night (Oops!
), he didn't respond.
. That was probably a bad idea, ha.
I've been trying to meet new people, keep myself busy -- how do you get over it?
Oh -- one last thing: After my last boyfriend, I swore I would not date dudes who came from divorced families. Why? They don't have a positive perspective on loving relationships AND more often then not, they have a "bad" relationship with their dad or their mother's raised them, spinning them into Mama's boys. Yes, I'm making a blanket judgement, but this was the case with my ex and this guy.
They were unusually feminine and disturbingly close to their moms...I didn't like that. I'm not saying it's bad per se, but it's not for ME.
I love my parents, they're wonderful and I value their opinion, but I'm 25. I make all of my decisions on my own...I can't get with the notion of consulting your mother for every-