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    Posted: Jun 11 2010 at 5:34pm

Well me and my bf had a discussion and at first it did turn into an argument, but he apologized about it.. and I was just wondering, was I wrong for the way I was thinkin.. Cuz if I'm wrong.. I'm not scared to say I'm sorry.

Anways.. the begginning of this week. I was conversating with my bf on the phone. I told him I wanted to go out this weekend with a  guy friend. Its been a long time since I've had any fun and I don't have any friends.. Just associates, i guess.Confused. But anywho at first my bf was okay with it, but he changed his mind, we talking about it and he feels that I'm too sexually vulnerable right now because I haven't had sex in 9 months... ( He seems to get very possesive sometimes)anyway---i told him i was going to respect his decision and not go.
 
Okay after that then my bf started telling me about his next door neighbor.. the night before he smoked sum trees with her. He told me he smoked with her before (only twice total).. but i thought he was done after the first time, because he told me he smoked @ her house.. and she was walkin around half naked.. sitting on the couch legs open.. being very  sexually.... inviting. He also told me she recently broke up with her boyfriend and she sleeps around with guys alot.. ( I don't know where he got all this info so I assumed that he had some history with her)
 
I told him i don't want him smoking with her and if he does it again we are done, its a wrap. WHAT WOMEN IN HER RIGHT MIND WOULD WANT HER MAN BEING AROUND ANOTHER FEMALE LIKE THAT??!
 
He told me that I was overreacting and that he has self control over temptation.. and I was like oh okay so she IS tempting you.. and according to him he hasn't been having sex so if he thinks I'm vulnerable than he should be vulnerable too.
 
He also said that he is going to smoke with her again and tell me about it. And that I won't dump him. Conversation ended.
 
He called me yesterday and apologized and told me that he saw his neighbor talking to his brother and he didn't speak to her he just went his own way..
 
I mean there is a possiblity that he is still smoking with her.. but I don't want to be one of those women who have to worry about what my man is doing 24/7, so-- I'm going to give him the benefit(sp??Grr) of the doubt and trust him..
 
I keep thinkin was I wrong about that??... But everytime I think it I say HELL NAW!!LOL
 
 


Edited by Twisted_Angel - Jun 11 2010 at 5:42pm
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He seems possessive.  You're sexually vulnerable?  This is the guy in CA right?
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You're not wrong! Girl, if he smoke with her again it's a wrap!!! But I also think he should be more trustin of you that you're not goin to do anything if you go out with a friend. I always think a relationship should be built on trust and pure honesty. You both should be able to trust that the other is goin to be loyal and not have to be that female that is out of control stalkin her man lol
 
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Originally posted by MissCassC MissCassC wrote:

He seems possessive.  You're sexually vulnerable?  This is the guy in CA right?
Yup same guy.. and I'm not sexually vulnerable. But, he thinks I am. This is the longest I've gone without having sex and he knows that.
 
I did tell him that I wanted to see him before I leave to basic training because If I don't see him now its going to be another 6 months before he can see me......I didn't think he was going to wait on me that long So i've been prepared for a breakup. But he told me he's willing to wait for his other half. And he told me that he's scared i might go to bootcamp and do something with a guy.
 
 I'm a very different women.. I'm still young but I've learned that sex isn't the number one thing you need for a successful relationship. And I've waited this long, why would I risk what we have and I think this long distance relationship is doing me some good..I'm being taught patience, before I started this.. I thought I could never go this long without having sex.. but its I am... In a way we are both being tested.
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I never thought I'd say this, but I do agree with Maximus Rex on this one.  
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Originally posted by Maximus Rex Maximus Rex wrote:

  Don't you have a "boyfriend," you've never met?  If so, YOU DO NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!!!!  I'll repeat, YOU DO NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!!!  IN ORDER TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND YOU HAVE TO SEE HIM ON A REGULAR BASIS!!!!

    Your in love with a image you've made up in your mind.  You don't know this dude any more than you know Tray Songz. You talk on the phone for hours and you get naked, get your titties out for dude and play with yourself while he watches on the webcam, that's it.  Anything else is fantasy and bullsh*t.

   Why are you so wrapped up in a dude you haven't seen.  In my opinion your not mentally stable and I'm not saying that to be mean.   Just because some dude from a far off land is giving you attention doesn't constitute a relationship.  Why can't you mess with the dudes you see on a regular basis?  Are you ugly or fat?  Anyway, until one of you guys decide to move to the same zip code as the other, then you need to leave this alone.  Here's something else


                                                  Memorandum

                                                                            
To: Twisted_Angel
                                                                             From: O.M.R.
                                                                             Subject: Twisted_Angel's 
                                                                             "Boyfriend's Fidelity

              Dear Twisted_Angel:
         
               Your so-called "boyfriend," is f*cking other chicks. 

                                                                  Sincerely yours,
                                                                  
                                                                        O.M.R.

         You have officially gotten the memo.  Now you know.  Go out with the other dude and stop worrying about people you haven't met.            
Wow.. what makes you so perfect that you can just judge me and my life?
 
So you honestly think I'm going to date a dude online FOREVER???.. Your crazy. We are meeting in 2months.. and I plan to move over there.. And besides it works both ways.. I could be messing around too.. Its a risk you both take.. I'm not ugly or fat and I look better than any girl YOU have had.. I'll appreciate advice.. but I aint gonna take no insults.. Keep your comments to yourself.
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I never thought I'd see the day.. I agree with Rex.


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Quote So you honestly think I'm going to date a dude online FOREVER???.. Your crazy. We are meeting in 2months.. and I plan to move over there.. And besides it works both ways.. I could be messing around too.. Its a risk you both take.. I'm not ugly or fat and I look better than any girl YOU have had.. I'll appreciate advice.. but I aint gonna take no insults.. Keep your comments to yourself.


Dude.. you don't get it; he's making SENSE. You have made thread after thread after thread and have gotten advice after advice after advice and yet a new thread appears with the story worsening.

PLEASE do not confuse sense with insults; just because you are not hearing what will make you happy doesn't mean you shouldn't listen at all.

You can't be serious with this. You two haven't even met yet, and here you are arguing and insulting each other. Is this what you want? I guarantee your arguments will worsen in real life.

You can't keep letting yourself be ruined by praise. Save yourself by criticism.
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Yall a mess.

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Originally posted by Twisted_Angel Twisted_Angel wrote:

Yall a mess.






Edited by ElectricLady - Jun 11 2010 at 6:31pm
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